Living
with a few hundred men taught me a lot about dating, men, and men’s outlook on
relationships. I am pretty good at understanding what they actually mean.
However, I will be the supportive friend when my girlfriends have boy problems
or are dumped. I won’t say, “Well, he said this and this, those are red flags. It’s over.” That’s not very nice; it’s true, but not nice. So here is a
helpful guide on what it really means when guys tell you an excuse to end a
relationship or a bullshit line to end things before the relationship began.
Enjoy.
The Excuse: “It’s not you, it’s me.” (Or I have a
lot of issues I need to work on now)
What
it really means:
Such
an cliché line. It basically means “It’s you. I am just not going to say that.”
It’s a lot easier to let someone down if you put the blame on yourself instead
of telling them that you just don’t like them.
The Excuse: “Our lives are going in different
directions.” (We are in totally different places in life)
What
it really means:
I
can't see your future fitting into my future, and I don't want to make the
effort to see if we can compromise and make things work..
The Excuse: “You're just so much more mature than
me.”
What
it really means:
I
just want to party, hook up with random people, and not feel any responsibility
towards you. At least he is being honest.
The Excuse: “I don't want you to get hurt.”
What
it really means:
There
might be some truth in this excuse, because if a guy liked you in the first
place, he genuinely cares about your feelings, however, sounds like he is
planning on hurting you, or he already has.
The Excuse: “I can’t do this anymore.”
What
it really means:
This
excuse basically works in every possible situation, and it doesn’t mean very
much at all. Someone who gives you this line is either too lazy to come up with
a legitimate reason or too much of a coward to be honest. What can’t they do
anymore? Make an effort?
The Excuse: “I’m not really over my ex, so it’s
not fair to you.”
What
it really means:
Although
he may very well still be hung up on his ex, if he liked you enough, this
wouldn’t be a problem. Just call yourself the ‘rebound’ now.
The Excuse: “I'm not ready to be in a
relationship.”
What
it really means:
He
may or may not want to be in a relationship right now… he just would rather be
single than be with you
The Excuse: “I’m bringing you down."
What
it really means:
Easy
excuse, used to convince you that he is a negative influence.
The Line: I am just not ready for a
relationship right now, but if I were, you’d be the one.
What it
really means:
One person
commitment or as Will Ferrell puts it “one vagina for the rest of my life?” If I was ready for that kind of commitment, you MIGHT be the person.
The Line: I still really care about you.
What it
really means:
I care but
just not enough to spend time or be with you.
The Line: I’d love to still be friends and
hang out after all this.
What it
really means:
Can we be
friends with benefits? Or is it okay if I hook up with your friends?
The line: It has been so great getting to
know you, but I think we need to spend time with other people.
What it
really means:
I don’t want
to talk or spend any time with you. Just other people.
The line: I am feeling smothered, I just need
some space.
What it
really means:
You are way
too clingy and into my business- way too fast. You need to back off.
The line: I feel like you’re more of a friend
than a girlfriend.
What it
really means:
My
attraction to you is really going downhill. Officially friend-zoned.
The line: I think we got too close too fast.
What it
really means:
You are
freaking me out with your plans, staying at my place every night, and leaving
stuff at my apartment. We are not there yet.
