I always feel like I need to put a disclaimer before ever
offering advice or my opinion. And I will probably continuing doing it, because
like everyone else in the world, I am young and still learning. I probably
would laugh at most of the things I said five or even two years ago. But having
friends who go through rough times and offering advice over the years, I want
to share some things that can help.
1 1. Going through a break up is tough. No matter how
many breakups you go through. Depending on the time invested in the
relationship, it can feel like your world is crashing around you. Your heart
literally aches, it is a struggle to get through each day, and everyone feels
sorry for you. Not a great combination. Give yourself time to grieve the
relationship, whether you ended the relationship or they ended it. Give
yourself time to lick your wounds, don’t wallow in your sorrows but take the
time to recap and assess.
2 2. It will get better. It won’t feel like it the
first or maybe second week. But the day when you stop crying yourself to sleep
and feel in control of your life again. You will know, it gets better.
3 3. Stop making the same mistakes with each guy. If
each date or relationship is saying the same thing, i.e. you’re too clingy, you
can’t commit, you are moving too fast, listen to those comments. Because if
it’s not the first time you heard it, they are probably right. And make an
honest effort to understand why you are doing something, and work to fix the
issues in order to move forward in your life.
4 4. On the same hand, if a guy is a complete ass.
Then screw him. If he cheated on you, made you feel worthless, and was a
horrible boyfriend, you will realize it. Give it time and you will see all the
red flags and why it NEVER would have worked out. You saved yourself the pain
in the long run. (Feel sorry for the next girl he snags)
5 5. The fairy tales and story book happy endings are
not real. Your life is what you make of it. You can either blame others for
things not going your way, or you can do something about it. My happy ending
isn’t a relationship (although it’s nice) and get married and then “the end.” My fairy tale and “happily ever after” is
doing what I love (Toxicology) surrounded by family and friends that I love. So
get your head of the clouds and stop looking for your “prince charming.”
66. In the darkest of times, you find yourself.
Remember that.
77. There is no timeline; you make your life as you
go. Don’t feel like you need to be married by 23 or 25, because you might just
be divorced by 30. Was it really worth it? Probably not.
88. Your friends and family are your best support
system. Unless you are crying over the same guy over and over that they are sick
of hearing about, they will be supportive. Rely on them. They will give you the
love and strength you need. You’re not the first person to go through a
breakup, they might have some sage advice. And if not, they can show up with
ice cream and chick flicks at your place.
99. Everything will be ok. I promise. So smile and
realize there is hope in the future and lessons from the past.
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